Ahhh, the big O, climax, the little death. Orgasming has many different names and comes (it’ll be our only pun, promise) in many different shapes and sizes.
While it can be a fun part of sex, it is not and should not be the only goal. Sex is about the journey and enjoying it by yourself or with your partner(s). At Love Not War, we believe sex is time set aside for you to let go, enjoy pleasure and have fun. While climaxing is enjoyable, sex can also be about foreplay, roleplay, teasing, BDSM, oral sex, dirty talk and many other things. Also, many people struggle to orgasm during sex, so releasing yourself from the belief that you must orgasm can be freeing and help you enjoy the experience even more.
That being said, we know you are a curious bunch and who doesn’t want to learn about the many, many, many types of wonderful orgasms that exist and the types of toys that can help you achieve them. Here we cover the types of orgasms women and people with vaginas can experience.
What is it: Many people think the clitoris is only a small little button that sits at the top of your vulva, but this couldn’t be further from the truth. The clit is quite literally like an iceberg.
The exterior part of the clitoris is called the glans clitoris. It is packed with nerves and is highly sensitive to touch, which is why it feels so good during stimulation. It is covered by the clitoral hood, which is technically part of the labia minora but many include it in the clitoral anatomy. The rest of the clitoris sits under the skin, attached to the mons pubis and the labia. The whole clitoral structure is wishbone shaped and is on average close to four inches long. And with many vulva owners needing clitoral stimulation to orgasm, knowing the anatomy of the very organ in question is essential.
Clitoral orgasm then is when the clitoris, the glans clitoris or the whole organ, is stimulated. This can be through rubbing, flicking, licking, sucking or vibrations.
How to achieve it: Let your hands take a trip down south to play with yourself and figure out what it is exactly you like. Or you can start experimenting with some toys. There are many clitoral toys out there but that’s a whole different topic. For now, we’d suggest Amore. It’s a pocket sized little bullet vibe that packs a punch, for solo or coupled play.
What is it: The vulva is everything externally on the body i.e. clitoris, labia minora and majora, mons pubis, various glands and the opening of the vagina. The actual vagina is the internal muscular wall that extends from the vulva, to the cervix which is the opening to the uterus.
And the vaginal orgasm is all about that internal stimulation. While many people struggle to orgasm this way, when it does happen, it stays focused in the pelvic region or spreads from there.
How to achieve it: If having sex with a partner who has a penis, focus on thrusting, trying different speeds, and depths to see what feels good. If using a toy, solo or with a partner, try out Grá. It’s our bestselling textured internal vibrator aimed at massaging your vaginal wall with deep, rumbly vibrations. See what vibrations and speeds hit the spot and make you tingle with pleasure.
What is it: The G-Spot is situated about two to three inches inside the vagina on the front wall. It feels different in texture to the rest of the vagina as it's spongy and slightly more textured. While many dispute even the existence of the g-spot, let us tell you, it exists (how we’re still saying this is 2021 is beyond us, but alas). And if you’ve never had a g-spot orgasm before, it doesn’t mean you won’t ever.
How to achieve it: Just like the vaginal orgasm, the g-spot orgasm is all about technique and finding out what you like. Many like the ‘come hither’ stimulation from fingers, and some prefer direct stimulation from a toy with a ‘flat’ head such as Liebe. It’s flexible head allows you to apply as much or as little pressure as you like, with multiple speeds and vibrations to build to orgasm.
What is it: The clue is in the name. A blended orgasm is a mixture of vaginal and clitoral orgasm and when served right, is a pretty tasty dish. Some people report blended orgasms can last up to 15 minutes!
How to achieve it: Double the effort, double the reward. If this is what you're going for, try the missionary position as the clitoris can also be rubbed during penetration. For the vibration approach, use a rabbit as it provides internal and external stimulation simultaneously.
What is it: Did you know the breasts can swell up to 25% while sexually aroused? This boosts their sensitivity and many people report being able to reach orgasm through breast and nipple stimulation alone. In one particular study researchers discovered that stimulation of the nipple activated an area of the brain known as the genital sensory cortex which is the same region activated by stimulation of the clitoris, vagina and cervix. Translated, women's brains seem to process nipple and genital stimulation in the same way.
How to achieve it: Experiment with touch and different motions alternating between light feather strokes and deeper massages. You could also introduce a vibrator, such as Laska, for varied sensations.
There we have it, five different types of orgasms for you to experiment and play with. Remember though, this is not an exhaustive list, so if there are any other types of orgasms you’ve had or are interested in learning about, let us know.