Watching porn with your partner 👀

Some may never dream of sharing their porn collection with someone else, after all it’s personal and very private! However, at Love Not War we think sharing this vulnerable moment with your partner may open your eyes to some new and welcome experiences. 

Ever fancied the idea of watching porn with your partner? If so, read on…

Not only do you discover your partner's dark and dirty secrets but they get to discover yours too. There is something extremely intimate about being vulnerable and letting your significant other know your preferences. 

You can learn what your partner likes, what turns them on and they will learn the same about you. However it’s important to remember, just because they have a preference with porn, doesn't mean they want you to perform or act in that way. They may just enjoy or want to try a certain position. Communication is definitely key. 

Why not start with a ‘trial’ session. The reality is you both need to feel comfortable and keen to watch porn together so  once you've decided that you'd like to give it a go, have an honest and frank discussion about your typical porn habits. You both need to find a happy medium, even if you both have different porn tastes. And remember, it’s not an issue if you do have different tastes, but it is important to discuss this so that you’re both aware and don’t feel awkward or uncomfortable.

Although people may not always talk openly about the fact that they watch porn, studies have shown 90% of men and 60% of women watch porn regularly, so there’s a high chance that your partner does. Don’t be shy, have a discussion! 

It’s also important to remember that porn isn’t a “one size fits all” thing, and one person’s “oh yes” is another person’s “hell no.” So once you’ve decided that you’re going to watch porn together, it’s a good idea to find something that you both will enjoy. There are after all endless categories so we’re sure you’ll find something.

The key to connecting while watching porn, is to focus on the intimacy of the moment. “To make it sexy rather than awkward, play with each other’s hair and make out along the way,” recommends Dr. Greer. Talking to each other about what is turning you on whilst you’re watching it can also help you stay connected, as you can replicate this when you get down and dirty. If you don’t feel confident being blunt about it, maybe say things like  “That looks like fun,” “I’m getting so hot watching this with you,” or “We should try that together!” A little bit of talking can go a long way, and your partner will thank you for it!

THE most important tips for watching porn with your partner is to feel confident in your body and try not to let insecurities stand in the way of enjoying it. Remember that your partner wants to watch porn with you because the idea of sharing this experience with you turns them on — because they are attracted to you. Try not to get lost in your head and stress out. You wouldn’t compare yourselves to professional athletes during the Olympics, and this is no different. They are professional actors and therefore your experience will be different from theirs. Porn stars are there for you to enjoy their performance, so  relax and do just that…enjoy it!